Expectations

As humans living on this dying earth, we need to interact with each other. To some people, this task can be very easy and simple but to other, it can be hard and torturing. The former group of people are the extroverts and the latter are the introverts. Interacting with people require some form of intelligence and some skills. The level and depth of interaction also depend on who you are interacting with. However in all interactions, one thing need to be managed and that is expectations.

Managing expectations can be hard especially with someone whom you are not familiar with. It is hard to think and try to figure out what is expected of that person whom you are interacting with. Some say that to have a fruitful relationship, it is good to lay down on the table what each other expects from one another. From there, both parties must learn to accept and tolerate.

Then come the issue of what can be accepted and what can be tolerated. This is where the tricky issue comes in. The very reason why most couple fight and can't stand each other after marriage is because they fail to manage each other expectation. Marriage is all about managing expectation. Does your wife expects you to sms her where you are? Does your husband expects you to give him some free time after coming back from work? What does your wife or husband likes or dislikes? These are just some of the expectations that we need to manage.

However sometimes, even after doing that, one person just stick to his or her expectation of the other person. When this happened, usually a fight will breaks out. One scenario that really happened.(No relation to anyone dead or alive)

"Guy A and a friend, Girl B and girlfriend Girl C. One day, Guy A message Girl B asking whether she knows the answer to some tutorial questions. Girl B never get back to Guy A. Next day when Guy A meets Girl B, they interacted as usual and Girl B gave a passing remark that she was busy yesterday. Then Girl C message Guy A asking for his opinion on something but Guy A was caught up with something and forgets to message back Girl C. Guy A only manage to message back 5 hours after Girl C message. However Guy A thinks nothing about it because for Guy A, replying sms on time is not a must because you never know what the other person is having at the time of sms. But to Girl C, it is important as it shows that the other person care for her. Thus a quarrel breaks out between Girl C and Guy A." THE END.

As you can see, the couple didn't managed each other expectations. What happened after that, I can't tell you. Hehehe... For me, I just hope that me and my future wife can be tolerant to each other expectations and learn to give and take to each other weaknesses.

Life after marriage is different and we need to manage well our spouses expectation. I know a lot of my guys friends are those "happy go lucky" type where they don't care what others think of them. Heck, they don't even care what others expect of them. To them, they control their own life, they don't like when they need to adjust their life to match another person expectations, especially their girlfriends. For me, I would say that both the girls and the guys need to compromise their expectations. Put yourselves in each other shoes and InsyaAllah you will able to see the world from a different view.

Tomorrow is my final interview at PSA. Getting nervous by the seconds. And my hair is long and I haven't cut them! To those who are reading these, please pray for me and May Allah guides me and give me a job that is suitable for me.