Expectations

As humans living on this dying earth, we need to interact with each other. To some people, this task can be very easy and simple but to other, it can be hard and torturing. The former group of people are the extroverts and the latter are the introverts. Interacting with people require some form of intelligence and some skills. The level and depth of interaction also depend on who you are interacting with. However in all interactions, one thing need to be managed and that is expectations.

Managing expectations can be hard especially with someone whom you are not familiar with. It is hard to think and try to figure out what is expected of that person whom you are interacting with. Some say that to have a fruitful relationship, it is good to lay down on the table what each other expects from one another. From there, both parties must learn to accept and tolerate.

Then come the issue of what can be accepted and what can be tolerated. This is where the tricky issue comes in. The very reason why most couple fight and can't stand each other after marriage is because they fail to manage each other expectation. Marriage is all about managing expectation. Does your wife expects you to sms her where you are? Does your husband expects you to give him some free time after coming back from work? What does your wife or husband likes or dislikes? These are just some of the expectations that we need to manage.

However sometimes, even after doing that, one person just stick to his or her expectation of the other person. When this happened, usually a fight will breaks out. One scenario that really happened.(No relation to anyone dead or alive)

"Guy A and a friend, Girl B and girlfriend Girl C. One day, Guy A message Girl B asking whether she knows the answer to some tutorial questions. Girl B never get back to Guy A. Next day when Guy A meets Girl B, they interacted as usual and Girl B gave a passing remark that she was busy yesterday. Then Girl C message Guy A asking for his opinion on something but Guy A was caught up with something and forgets to message back Girl C. Guy A only manage to message back 5 hours after Girl C message. However Guy A thinks nothing about it because for Guy A, replying sms on time is not a must because you never know what the other person is having at the time of sms. But to Girl C, it is important as it shows that the other person care for her. Thus a quarrel breaks out between Girl C and Guy A." THE END.

As you can see, the couple didn't managed each other expectations. What happened after that, I can't tell you. Hehehe... For me, I just hope that me and my future wife can be tolerant to each other expectations and learn to give and take to each other weaknesses.

Life after marriage is different and we need to manage well our spouses expectation. I know a lot of my guys friends are those "happy go lucky" type where they don't care what others think of them. Heck, they don't even care what others expect of them. To them, they control their own life, they don't like when they need to adjust their life to match another person expectations, especially their girlfriends. For me, I would say that both the girls and the guys need to compromise their expectations. Put yourselves in each other shoes and InsyaAllah you will able to see the world from a different view.

Tomorrow is my final interview at PSA. Getting nervous by the seconds. And my hair is long and I haven't cut them! To those who are reading these, please pray for me and May Allah guides me and give me a job that is suitable for me.

Till Then...

Yes. I have finished my examinations last Wednesday. It was a weird feeling because it was indeed my last paper that I will be sitting for, InsyaAllah. And yet I do not really feel excited about it. Part of me feel glad and the other part feel blank. Weird right?

Nevertheless, my other friends have not completed their papers. I managed to hold the bragging right of finishing my paper first for one day because one of my friend finish his paper a day after me.

First thing I did after my exams was to go home. Yes I have not "visit" home for like 16 days. Finally I got a ticket out of NTU. Then on Thursday, did my routine "jalan-jalan" to Sim Lim, Bugis and Suntec City. And yes I was alone. People say how can I walk alone. For some it is unthinkable but seriously I am used to be on my own walking alone. Friday went to school for Friday prayers then hang out with some friends who were still studying at school. Actually my main purpose to go to school for prayer was to meet my friend who promise to pass me a cd but in the end he did not bring them. Later in the evening went to a friend's house to take a look at his computer then went for meeting. Saturday was outing with parents, Sunday partying at Costa Sands Chalet, Monday was Perdaus Staff Bond Day and Poofff, its Today. Time is moving so damn bloody fast.

Shall stop abruptly here. Will continue later.

The End Is Near

In 3 days time, I will sit for my final paper in NTU, the last paper I will have to study in NTU. With God's Will, this semester will be my final semester in NTU and graduation. Many of my friends still cannot accept the fact that they are graduating. They will be facing the harsh world out there. No more comfort zone, no more making mistakes, no more slacking and procastinating. Yes, believe it. That is the world out there. Many graduates are used to being shield by the school environment and they have not come to a situation where deadline means money. The life after university is still a white piece of canvas. The first paint may be raw and ugly but insyaAllah the second and future paint will be beautiful with many colours.

Growing up. That is the word to describe what me and my friends are feeling. As I have mentioned before, human dislike changes. We tend to do what it takes to prevent changes from happening. We can't accept the fact that after this we need to find money to support our own life. There will be decision we need to make that will affect the rest of our life. Then there is marriage to think about. No more girlfriends or boyfriends. Previous we may have reason to say that we are still schooling so marriage is out of the question but now that period is over. Much more decision coming our way.

In our eyes, we still feel young. We still want to live as a youth, carefree and no responsibility. Till now we still do childish things like making paper aeroplane and going to level 5 and throw it down. Hehehe... (you know...) We want more time to be given to us for us to enjoy being a youth. Sadly, nothing can turn back time. We are 25 years old, next year we will be 26.

Like it or not, we will grow old. So instead of still trying to relive those old times and refuse to accept the future. Let try to slowly usher in the new episode in our life. The episode that will probably bring us many good memories and experiences. It is time we learn the ropes of adult life. The life with bills, career, wife, children, religion and much more. InsyaAllah, if we keep our faith strong and continue to bring ourselves closer to Allah, He will help us and give us a good life.

Oh you who believe! Seek help with patient, perseverance and prayer, for Allah is with those who patiently persevere.(2:153)

Burp!!!

I just can't stop burpping. And it is causing me to lose my rest. Have you ever had the feeling of something stuck in your chest and you just cannot go to sleep unless that thing in your chest move down to your stomach? Yes, I have been having that problem for a few days now. It will take me like 1hr to 1 and half hour just to get that thing off my chest. Once the thing have move down, I will feel extremely better and able to go to sleep. Is it something I eat? Or is it that my esophagus is getting smaller and cause food object to be stuck there. I am becoming like a baby that needs to burp before it can go to sleep. Hahaha...

Other than that... its 22 days to freedom... hahaha.... well so called lah....

I Sit And Wait

Procastination is the mother of all evil!!!! Yes believe me, it is true. I am sure many of you agree with me on this one. When one work comes in, you said to yourself,"Hah, it's ok. It can wait. Tomorrow I will start on it". Then tomorrow came and gone and you still have not done it. Sound familiar? Ok ok... I think I am obsess with procastination.

One man's nightmare is another man's dream. Who believe in that? I believe as a Muslim, one Muslim's dream is the dream of every other Muslim. If your Muslim brother achieve something great, you should also feel proud as a brother in Islam. Jealousy should be the last thing on your mind. In fact you should encourage that brother further and support him in his course of great achievements. We need to stand together as one and united as one. Saying the same shahadah and praying to the same God. We are the Brotherhood of Islam.

At the same time, if our brother does something wrong, something that will tarnish the good name of Islam, we should stop him and help him. Helping him will eventually help ourselves. Helping him so that in turn, Allah will help us. Help him so that Islam will be preserve in its good name. Yet many of us, leave our brothers alone. "Why should I help him, he is not related to me","He is not one of US","We are better than him, he should come and seek our help". Is this the attitude that we as Muslim have? No wonder the Muslim here are over-represented in many bad things.